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How to Recognize Intimacy Issues NEW RELATIONSHIPS
Being intimate with your partner is an important part of the bonding process as a couple. Cuddling, sexual intercourse, personal conversations and sharing each others’ secrets are activities that build up the closeness between you. If you or your partner has a fear or lack of interest in these activities, you can try and analyze actions and behaviors to recognize any intimacy issues that are present. Once you identify intimacy issues, you can take steps to remedy them.
Assess whether you or your partner is having difficultly with commitment. For example, if your partner is not willing to be monogamous, or you do not want to marry, this could be symbolic of fearing to be with the same person.
Review the history of your and your partner’s other relationships. If there have been issues of commitment, evidence of this could include cheating, divorce or always being the person to break up with somebody just when things start to get serious.
Write down any problems that have occurred in the bedroom. Sexual issues are the most obvious signs of intimacy problems. In men, issues such as erectile dysfunction or impotence could signal a problem. For women, the inability to reach orgasm or the lack of sexual desire might signal an intimacy problem.
Consider any problems you or your partner are having outside of the relationship. Mental health issues such as depression or anxiety can cause individuals to withdraw from a partner. Stress from work or exhaustion from caring from children can lead to a reduction in intimacy, according to the article, “Lack of Sexual Intimacy: What It Means and How to Deal with It,” on TwoOfUs.org.
Recognize if you have had a large number of one-night stands, to identify an intimacy issue. If you move from one partner to the next, then it could mean that you fear being with the same person or being intimate at all. The casual nature of the sex indicates a lack of commitment to the same person for fear of getting too close, for example.
Review how many arguments have occurred in the relationship. Tension is often released through bickering, and this could indicate that another issue is underlying the relationship, such as the fear of intimacy or not being intimate frequently enough. If you feel that there are too many small arguments over minor issues, then this could be an intimacy issue.
Recognize a feeling of distrust towards other people, either in yourself or your partner, to identify an intimacy issue. If you prefer not to request help, or prefer to perform tasks yourself, then you could be afraid of allowing somebody close to you because you cannot trust him.